I feel this needs to be said: Love is not a weekly occurrence. Love takes time and thought. You need to know a person in every single facet of their personality before you can come close to being in love with them. I am so tired of watching my generation date someone for less than a week and suddenly they're in love. It doesn't happen like that and it never will. Love is rare. As well love is not obsessive. Love should allow for mistakes and imperfections. No one should ever mean more to you than you mean to yourself. Some will say this is a selfish notion, but it's not. You can't care for someone else if you can't care for yourself. Certainly, a potential love can help you learn to care for yourself, but they should never be the sole reason you care. If you let someone be your "world" or your "everything", you are shutting out others in your life. Being in love shouldn't be about giving someone your heart, it should be about sharing yourself. Sadly, it seems the society today loves too much. If you really stop and think the word love has lost all meaning. Love used to mean something special,now it's part of our daily vocabulary. I, myself, am guilty of using the word love too much...I "love" this hat; I "love" my car; I "love" the colour purple. I'm not using the word correctly. I like the hat; it's a nice hat, nothing more. My car gets me places, but I don't love it, I'm thankful for it. As for the colour purple, 6 months ago I "loved" the colour blue. Love is unchanging, it doesn't come and go. It's a constant, a flexible constant. When I say love is unchanging I mean it changes in intensity, but it shouldn't stop being love. Does that make sense? Likely not; however, that's all right. Love should give you "warm fuzzies" and I think it should make your heart beat faster. Finally, love is absolutely nothing without trust. When you don't feel safe in a relationship, you're not in love. I know that at this point in time I cannot love because I don't trust. I'd like to trust, I long to trust, but I can't. I once trusted someone completely and I got hurt so badly, so many times. Now, I have no one to turn to when I need a shoulder to cry on. Not that there aren't people who want to be there for me, I just don't trust any enough to turn to them. I hope to trust and then maybe love, again.

These were some thoughts I have had for a while and needed to share. Enjoy, my dears.